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Fertility Rally is an all-inclusive community, created for EVERYONE who is going through infertility, has gone through infertility, has questions about fertility in general, or who is building their modern families in a “non-traditional” way.

We see you–and we want you to know that you’re not alone. This space is for anyone seeking support, curated information, inclusion, humor, kick ass virtual and IRL events and awesome discounts while navigating the rocky AF waters of fertility, infertility, intended parenthood and beyond (because the truth is, even if you’re “done” with infertility, your story doesn’t necessarily end there).

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Jan 26

We blinked & had an email in our inbox from LegalZoom (yep, we went that route #startup) congratulating us on turning one 🎉

We have been so busy working on our new website, programming & the next Rally LIVE that we didn’t even realize it was our 1st birthday 🎂

We are taking today to do exactly what we encourage our members and all of you to do... celebrate the wins! Big and small.

THANK YOU to every member, to everyone who follows and supports us, and to everyone who has sponsored and spoken at one of our events. We wouldn’t be here celebrating if it weren’t for you. That is never lost on us - not for a single second.

Cheers to many more! Claws up!

#rallylikeamofo 🥂

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Jan 25

It’s #MemberCrushMonday & today we’re loving on one of our newer members, @jessketchem - visit her page & show her some Rally Fam love 💕

A little about Jess...

HOMETOWN: Byron, MI

TTC JOURNEY IN ONE SENTENCE:
#TTC for a year and a half, #PCOS, #Endometriosis, and a uterine septum - planning on a hysteroscopy to correct septum if baby K doesn't make an appearance by April 💕

GUILTY PLEASURE:
Right now it's binging Infertile AF, but usually serial killers are my jam 🎧

GO-TO MANTRA OR QUOTE:
I am strong. I am resilient. I am a badass.

THREE FUN FACTS:

1) I met my husband when we were in middle school and have been together since we were 14 years old! 💕

2) I am obsessed with Harry Potter!#Hufflepuff My dogs are named after Luna Lovegood and the Whomping Willow. I have a Dealthy Hallows tattoo on my calf! ⚡️

3) I teach intermediate students with autism, but hope to one day open my own woodshop so I can craft for a living. 🪓

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Jan 22

Hey there.

It's #founderfriday so I wanted to share a photo of when Vince and I were in the midst of IVF.

It was Valentine's Day 2015, and we were having a party with some of Ever's Kindergarten friends.

Although we were smiling in this photo (fake it til you make it/IG vs. Reality and all that), we were NOT in a great place.

At that point in our journey, we'd had four miscarriages, two failed IUIs, lots of heartbreak and were in the weeds of #secondaryinfertility.

We had finally decided to do one round of IVF—and I was about to start my drug protocol. I was not drinking, eating clean and working out like crazy to try and gear up for this one and only cycle.

It was our Hail Mary.
Tension was high.
The stakes were high.
We were arguing a shitton.

It's so crazy because TONIGHT, Vince and I are going to record the 100th episode of my podcast, which will come out in a few weeks. I wanted a very special guest for this episode, and one day it hit me: Duh, VINCE.

He's never told his side of the story—and I know it's such a different story than mine—so we're going to have some drinks and get into it.

I'm nervous/excited/all the feels. What will we dredge up? We'll find out tonight over some Coors and Claws.

Even though Sonny is now five, the scars of infertility never fade. But if we keep sharing our journey, especially the messy bits, hopefully we can help others feel less alone. ❤️

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Jan 21

Since launching our Rally membership site on June 1, 2020, we've been continually blown away by the people we've met, the women who've become part of our fam, and the incredible DMs and messages from the people who've joined our community. 💗

One of our many goals is providing a safe space and a where people will feel heard, seen and less alone. 💗💗

This week, we got the sweetest message—and the most INSANE HANDMADE GIFT—from one of our members, @laurenredfern, who we are lucky enough to call a friend for life. (It's the instant bond of Infertility, yknow?) 😍

Check out our Stories to see what Lauren made for us! We legit died when we saw it. ⚰️⚰️⚰️❤️❤️❤️

If you'd like to join the Worst Club with the Best Members, DM us for the deets!

We have huge things on the horizon for 2021. And as always, everyone is welcome.

xoxo A and B

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Jan 20

INTRODUCING OUR NEW SUPPORT GROUP EVENT, RALLY READS!

Happy Weds, Rally Fam 💗

Tonight, we have our weekly Rally Together Support Group, starting at 7:30pmET with an anything goes Member Share.

Then at 8:15, we're kicking off our new support group event, "Rally Reads," where once a month, we'll discuss a thought-provoking article, blog post or book pertaining to our community—and how you as members are feeling about it all.

Tonight, we're highlighting "Infertility in a Pandemic," by Infertility Doula and Coach Amanda Osowski, @heartfeltbeginnings (link in bio to read.)

"Infertility comes with so much unpredictability to start. Now, you’re forced to add in these 'wildly unprecedented' times, and you’re left with a literal shit storm of questions. Of unknowns. Of silence," she writes.

We can't wait to dig into it! Members, no need to RSVP. Zoom link is in the newsletter we sent out on Monday.

And if you're looking to join our community, we'd love to have you! Just DM us and we'll send you next steps! 💗

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Jan 19

This week we are introducing a new series into our Rally Together Support Group called, “Rally Reads.”

Once a month, we will spend the second part of our Wednesday night support group unpacking/discussing articles, books or essays. Some will be fertility-focused, some will not. We are committed to switching it up this year!

This week we are discussing two articles about #infertility amidst a pandemic. This quote is from one of the articles.

Members, check your email for links to both articles we will be discussing tomorrow & for the ZOOM link!

#RALLYREADS 📚

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Jan 18

Happy #MemberCrushMonday Rally Fam!

Today we are sending extra love to @jbawden - a little more about the amazing Jen below...

HOMETOWN: West Jordan, Utah

TTC JOURNEY IN ONE SENTENCE: The most challenging journey of my life, but with the ultimate reward at the end (hopefully).

GUILTY PLEASURE: frozen Reese's peanut butter cups with a glass of cold milk.

GO-TO MANTRA OR QUOTE: I am a warrior. I can do hard things. I will get through this. 💪🏼

THREE FUN FACTS:

1. I've started making soy wax candles with essential oils to stay sane during our infertility journey. 🕯

2. I'm a Harry Potter nerd and listen to the audiobooks every couple of months. No matter how many times I listen to the books, read the books, or watch the movies, I still cry when the characters die. My husband always makes fun of me. ⚡️

3. I'm happiest when I'm outside doing all sorts of things like: gardening, camping, sitting around a campfire, hiking, and watching sunsets and sunrises. 🏔 ☀️ 🏕

Jen we are so glad you are part of our family & look forward to cheering you on this year as you go through treatment!

XOXO, Blair & Ali

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Jan 15

Hey Rally Fam 👋🏻

It’s founder Friday & today I’m showing you my playful side. I bring you the Twizzler walrus 😂

I randomly took this picture to send to Will to make him laugh awhile back & it got me thinking about how #infertility & COVID have taken so much of my humor away. The mindless silliness that used to make up so much of who I am.

There are still some glimmers that come through here & there but this year I’m trying to take advantage of my urges to be light-hearted in this world of heavy.

I used to:

-Play music every day when I cooked & dance around & sing 🎶

-Do car karaoke 🎤

-Seek out funny social media accounts for a good laugh 😆

I’m trying to get back to that instead of feeling the weight of the 🌎 all the time.

CHALLENGE for you this weekend:
Take a silly photo & send it to someone... or post on your stories & tag us! Play music loud & dance like no one is watching. Discover a funny social media account & get lost in laughter!

We could all use some more smiles!

Love you all, B 💕

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Jan 14

This week we wanted to share our Cool Shit of the Week, featuring 6 things to help you reboot & reset in the new year. We have a little bit of everything in our lineup - a podcast, sleep accessories, personal assessments & more!

We loved starting this weekly piece as part of our franchise bc who doesn’t like discovering cool shit?!

Members, the full downloadable doc with clickable links is posted in our FB group!

Which one will you try?! Share below 👏🏼

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Jan 13

“Humans rebuild. It’s our human nature to adapt, and our survival depends on it.”

This is one of my favorite lines from the book, “The Courage to Suffer” by Sara & Daryl Van Tongeren. We are SO excited to bring these two on our Rally Together Support tonight to talk about the beauty in suffering and the meaning of life beyond #infertility - bc believe it or not, it does exist.

It is a huge goal of ours to bring a wide variety of guests and programming to our members in 2021. Bringing on two amazing psychologists to talk about suffering being an inescapable part of life and really looking at how it can fundamentally change us a human beings is part of this effort.

@theexistentialtherapist & @darylvantongeren we can’t wait for you to blow our minds tonight 🤯

Members, be on the lookout for the email with the ZOOM link coming later today!

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Jan 12

We’ll just leave this right here. 💓😂 🏃‍♀️🙅🏼‍♀️

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Jan 11

Happy Monday Rally Fam! It’s #membercrushmonday & today we are lovin’ on Lindsey aka @searchingforapositive

Here’s some info about Lindsey:

HOMETOWN: Stow, Ohio

#TTCJOURNEY IN ONE SENTENCE:
I have struggled with #endometriosis my whole life, leading me right to IVF shortly after trying to conceive naturally.

GUILTY PLEASURE:
Reality TV- Real Housewives especially

GO-TO MANTRA OR QUOTE:
Work Hard, Play Hard 🤓 🎉

THREE FUN FACTS:
1) I am a huge Cleveland Browns fan, we never miss a home game 🏈
2) Mexican food and wine are my two favorite things 🌮 🍷
3) I met my husband when we were 6 and 7 years old 🥰

Thanks for sharing some of your story Lindsey! We adore you 💕

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Jan 8

It's Founder Friday, so I (Ali) wanted to give you a little flashback of my Two Week Wait.

Here's Vince and me during that time. Note my puffy face from all the meds.

A quick recap:

On April 1, 2015, after four miscarriages, two IUIs and three+ years of infertility hell, we transferred our one and only, genetically tested, healthy embryo. We did not know the sex of the embryo. I was 40 years old, going on 41.

I was scared shitless, to say the least. (The other four, all girls, which we found out later, were genetically abnormal.)

If it didn’t work, we weren’t doing another round. We didn’t have the means, financially or emotionally.

Since it was Spring Break for my then 5-year-old, Ever, we'd had a trip to Sarasota, Florida planned to visit my incredible in-laws. (Remember travel?)

During that trip, I was constantly looking for signs. I heard my infertility theme song, "Here Comes the Sun," one day while I was at the pool.

I made my family light magic wish papers (see second pic).

I read Amy Poehler's book, "Yes Please," which was basically what I had been begging the universe every single day for a thousand days (pic three).

On April 11, back in Brooklyn, we found out that the transfer had worked. "Call us when you deliver!" the nurse said chirpily. I dropped the phone on the bed and started bawling. I had been dying to hear those words for so, so, so long. I know so many of you have too. You get it. I see you. I am with you.

Sonny Vincent Prato was born on December 11, 2015. I do know how lucky we are. Every day I say to him, "I still can't believe you're here." Because I can't.

I know so many of you have been there before, are there right now, or will be there soon. The reason I share this is to tell you that I know what you're going through and how much it FUCKING SUCKS, and I hope you can count on me if you need support.

I’ve always been an open book and believe in the power of sharing stories. I’m happy to hear yours no matter what you’re going through.

How have you/will you spend your #tww? Anyone have good tips or advice for those who might see this?

Sending ❤️

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Jan 7

Hey Everyone!

We excited to announce our Jan collab with Coach Kela Smith, the CEO and Program Director of The Hormone Puzzle Society, a coaching platform that aims to teach women how to cycle sync to optimize their fertility, whether trying naturally or through ART.

As you might remember, Kela was one of our Rally Live speakers!

Kela has created her own membership platform as well, where she is offering $10 off the first month to our members (see FB Group for details!). And check out @kela_healthcoach for more

Here’s to good health in 2021❤️

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Jan 6

We have another exciting 2021 announcement! At the end of 2020 we began offering one “Pregnancy After Infertility” support group per month to meet the needs of our growing membership 💕

We are thrilled that more of our members are moving into the next stage of their journey! To meet them where they are at, we have decided to offer this support group every Monday 🎉

What’s even more exciting is we have partnered with two Rally members and two of our favorite advocates in this community who have been on both sides of infertility to make this happen by hosting one of the groups each month!

The lineup:

@lindsaymfischer 1st Mon
@brookeypage & @normandykiddesq 2nd Mon
@brokenbrownegg 3rd Mon
Ali & Blair 4th Mon

We are PUMPED!!!

If these new weekly groups meet the needs of your journey, we invite you to join the Rally fam! Today is the last day to join until February. Site is under construction so DM us if interested and we’ll hook you up!

Xoxo, Blair & Ali

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Jan 5

It’s a new year which means a lot of new fun & exciting things for the Rally 👏🏼

We are super excited to announce our new private Facebook group for our members & those who have attended a Rally LIVE event.

This is a safe place where our members can continue support group conversations with their #ttcsisters, vent, ask advice, celebrate wins, & stay up to speed on all the latest Rally happenings!

This group is already so active & we couldn’t be more thrilled! To gain access to this group, our EIGHT monthly virtual support groups, curated monthly niche events, bonus podcast eps, extensive blog, fertility discounts, video library, merch & more DM or email us to become a member!

#rallylikeamofo

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Jan 4

Happy #membercrushmonday everyone!

Today we are thrilled to highlight our sweet member, Samantha Good — aka @rainbowmamawaiting 🌈

HOMETOWN: Eugene, Oregon

TTC JOURNEY IN ONE SENTENCE: I probably wouldn't make it without therapy & support groups!

GUILTY PLEASURE: Bingeing netflix for sure

GO-TO MANTRA: I can do hard things.

THREE FUN FACTS:
1) I only have one kidney! In 2018 I was diagnosed with a ten pound kidney tumor on the other.

2) I taught high school Spanish for the last three years.

3) I'm super passionate about the environment and am getting my masters in Sustainability Policy & Practice.

We’d also like to point out that Sam makes the coolest rainbow wall hangings/ornaments, as seen here! They come in three sizes and we are obsessed. Check out her IG for more!

We’re so happy you’re in the fam, Sam!🌈🌈🌈

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Jan 1

🎉 New Year, New Site 🎉

Happy New Year Rally Fam! We are SO excited to announce that with the new year, comes a refreshed & improved Rally site. Our goal is to make the site as user friendly (both on desktops & mobile devices) as possible so we are making a huge investment to make that happen 👏🏼

The site currently under construction so bear with us while our developers work behind the scenes to make it fucking amazing! 🚧

We don’t want site construction to get in the way of or usual membership opening the first week of each month. With that said, DM or email us if you want to join and we’ll give you access to support groups until we are back up and running!

We are investing in the site and hoping you’ll invest in yourself by joining our Rally fam. Unlock an amazing support system full of support groups and resources available to you 24/7 - 365 💕

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Dec 24

HAPPY RALLIDAYS to this entire community!
Sending love, peace and wishes of good health to each and every one of you ❤️
We’ll be back in 2021 with an open membership and tons of new and exciting things! ✨
Cheers, dears!
Blair and Ali

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Dec 23

We can’t believe Christmas is two days away! We are totally in the spirit with music in the background always. We thought we’d share some of our fave holiday tunes with you in the form of a Spotify playlist. Link in bio <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a> 🎄 🎶

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Dec 22

RALLIDAYS @infertiletees GIVEAWAY!

Today, we are proud to partner with one of our gram besties, Marilyn Gomez, aka @marilynbgomez and creator of the Infertile Tees, for our next Rallidays giveaway.

Marilyn is giving away one Hope rainbow tee picture here!

TO ENTER:

💕 FOLLOW <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a>
💕 FOLLOW @infertiletees
💕 LIKE this post
💕 TAG a #ttcsister who would love this
(more tags = more entries)
💕 FIVE BONUS entries for sharing in your stories & tagging us!

Must be in US to win.

THAT’S NOT ALL! Marilyn is also offering 10% off all orders through December 26th with code RALLIDAYS10. Link in bio <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a>

Please note: Orders will not be done in time for Chiristmas.

GOOD LUCK!

MARILYN, you’re one of the greats!

Xoxo Ali and Blair

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Dec 22

WE FUCKED UP. AND WE'RE SORRY.

If you know us and all that we've done in this community for the past few years, you know that we have always come from a place of love, inclusiveness, and wanting to help and lift each other up.

Yesterday, it was made clear that our hashtag about infertility being a gift was triggering to a lot of people. And for that, we are sorry.

Our intention was to try to find the good in infertility, even if for one day. It was not to promote "toxic positivity" or to pressure anyone else to feel the same way.

We are called the Worst Club with the Best Members for a reason. This fucking sucks, and we know that firsthand.

Our intention was never to hurt anyone who is already suffering. That is the antithesis of what we are all about.

Words matter, and the term "gift" was a word choice that caused unintentional pain. We understand that now. We archived it so as to not continue triggering anyone who comes to our page.

We believe in healthy and respectful debates and disagreements. For those who didn't disagree with the term, we understand. We knew going into it that it would not resonate with everyone, and that's ok.

For those who disagreed and sent respectful messages, thank you.

For those who chose to send nasty messages and spew vitriol in our direction, that's another story.

We hope anyone who is in pain can find the help and support they need. We are here and always willing to listen and learn.

With love, Ali and Blair

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Dec 21

Happy Rallidays! We hope you have a mother clucking incredible holiday week!

For those who don’t know, this is our mascot, Rally, the silkie chicken 🐓 💕

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Dec 19

In our continuation of Rallidays, we are sharing some of our holiday traditions in hopes you’ll share some of yours with us.

Blair’s Tradition:
“Every year, my family & I adopt a family from our church’s Giving Tree. We select a family & fulfill their Christmas wishes. A couple of this year’s requests were a pretty sweater, basketball gear & boots! Every family deserves to open gifts during the holidays & feel loved.”

Ali’s Tradition:
“Every year, we take the kids to see the holiday lights in Dyker Heights, a Brooklyn neighborhood with the most over-the-top decorations you’ve ever seen. Life-sized Santas and sleighs, Christmas carols bumping from loud speakers, and food trucks selling hot cocoa and snacks. It’s a whole thing—and so much fun.”

These are just two things that make the holidays special for our families. Check out our stories for a fun Christmas traditions template! Also, we’d love you to share your favorite Christmas tradition in comments below 🌲

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Dec 18

RALLIDAYS CONTINUE WITH A LOSS LOVEY GIVEAWAY!

Today, we are proud to partner with our dear friend, Candace Van Wade, aka @operationbabybump and creator of the Loss Lovey, for our next Rallidays giveaway.

Candace is giving away one Loss Lovey with personalization. “I created @losslovey as a way to support and provide hope to grieving families,” Candace says.

How sweet is she pictured here making them with her baby? 💓

“When Daniel and I suffered our first miscarriage in 2014, it all happened so fast; it felt like our baby never even existed. We don’t know what their gender was, they didn’t get a name, we didn’t have a registry or a baby shower...nothing. One of the hardest parts of that loss was moving forward with nothing to hold on to and nothing to remember them by. Nothing to remind me that they ever were part of our lives, even if for a short time.”

TO ENTER:

💕 FOLLOW <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a>
💕 FOLLOW @losslovey
💕 LIKE this post
💕 TAG a #ttcsister who would love this
(more tags = more entries)
💕 FIVE BONUS entries for sharing in your stories & tagging us!

Must be in US to win.

THAT’S NOT ALL! Candace is also offering 10% off all orders for the rest of December with code RALLIDAYS10. Link in bio <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a>

Please note: Orders will not be done in time for Chiristmas.

GOOD LUCK!
CANDACE, we love you!
Xoxo Ali and Blair

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Dec 17

Hey Rally Fam 👋🏻

Today for Rallidays, we are sharing our latest edition of COOL SHIT OF THE WEEK. It’s a gift guide showcasing 6 amazing gifts under $30. Any of these would be the perfect pick for a gift exchange, friend or #ttcsister

Visit our stories for the full list!

Members, as always you head to the member page > shit you need > cool shit of the week for the latest edition with links to each item!

Have any other cool gifts under $30?! Share them in comments below 🎁

Happy shopping everyone!

XOXO Blair & Ali

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Dec 16

We are so excited to announce that tonight we are hosting a Rally Holiday Party with our friends at @viosfertility!

Rally members, be sure to RSVP either on the member site or via the newsletter that you got last night, where you’ll learn to make a “Merry & Bright” cocktail or mocktail w/ founder of @hollowlegmixology, Devin Kinder! 🍹

We’ll also have TWO incredible REIs in the house, @roohijeelanimd and @mackenziepurdymd who will be answering all your fertility Qs. They both have personal experience with infertility, so they GET IT.

There will also be giveaways, including VIOS vitamins and a @uniquely_knitted x VIOS custom holiday box!

If you’re not yet a Rally member, make sure to get on the Waitlist bc membership opens again on Jan 1! We can’t think of a better way to kick off a new year than by investing in yourself and surrounding yourself w people who want to lift you up!

See you tonight, Fam!

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Dec 15

🌈 RALLIDAYS RAINBOW GIVEAWAY! 🌈

On the 2nd day of Rallidays, we are partnering with one of our amazing Rally members, Samantha, @rainbowmamawaiting, who makes these super sweet handcrafted rainbows, which come in small, medium or large. (WE ARE OBSESSED!)

Samantha not only makes these rainbows for her #ttcsisters, but as away to hold on to hope for her own #rainbowbaby. As a member of the Worst Club with the Best Members, Samantha knows how these rainbows can brighten someone’s day which is why she has partnered up with us today to give one away!

TO ENTER:

💕 FOLLOW <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a>
💕 FOLLOW @rainbowmamawaiting
💕 LIKE this post
💕 TAG a #ttcsister who would love this
(more tags = more entries)
💕 FIVE BONUS entries for sharing in your stories & tagging us!

Must be a in US to win. Winner can choose either a small or medium rainbow in the colors of their choice (medium rainbow shown here). Winner will be announced tomorrow in our stories!

THAT’S NOT ALL! Samantha is also offering 20% off all orders placed today with code rally20. Link in bio <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a>

Please note: Orders will not be done in time for Chiristmas.

This giveaway is in no way sponsored by Instagram.

GOOD LUCK!
SAMANTHA, we love you!

Xoxo Ali and Blair

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Dec 14

HAPPY RALLIDAYS!

‘Tis the season for us to show some love to all of you!

For the next 12 days, we’ll be coming at you with giveaways, surprises, collabs and holiday cheer!

Mostly, we want to remind you that although the holidays can be crazy tough when you’re going through #infertility and building your modern families, we are all in this together.

Watch this space for more! And tag someone below who could use some love this holiday season. Let’s Holiday Like a Mofo.

Love, Ali & Blair

#happyrallidays #fertilityrally #rallylikeamofo #ttc #ttccommunity #ttctribe #ttcjourney #ttcsupport #ttcsisters #infertility #infertilitysucks #infertilitywarrior #infertilityawareness #infertilityjourney #infertilitysupport #unexplainedinfertility #bfn #ivf #icsi #fet #ivfcommunity #ivfjourney #ivfsuccess

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Dec 14

This is sound holiday advice that we are taking to heart. Starting tomorrow, we will be jingling our asses off, bringing you TWELVE days of holiday fun, collabs & giveaways 🎁

Jingle all the way & visit our page every day Dec 14 - 25 🎄

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Dec 11

Hey Rally Fam 👋🏻

On this #FounderFriday I am taking some time to tell all of you what a huge difference you have made in my life.

Before I met all of you & became a part of the Worst Club with the Best Members, I wasn’t completely honest with anyone in my life about how I felt about our #infertilityjourney - you’ve made me feel safe so I can do that.

Before I joined this #ttccommunity, I was more narrow-minded. I judged the way people handled their pregnancy, if/when they went back to work, wasn’t educated on many social dilemmas, & was less empathetic. You all have taught me that there isn’t a right or wrong way to handle #infertility & pregnancy & have opened my eyes to so many issues in the world, inspiring me to do better. Infertility makes us so much more empathetic & I’m so grateful for that “side effect”.

And finally, if it weren’t for all of you, I wouldn’t have discovered my life’s purpose & passion which is serving all of you through sharing my own journey & bringing as many resources as I can through my work over at <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertility-rally-38/' rel='nofollow'>@fabfertility</a> & through the work I do with @infertileafstories over here at the Rally.

With all of that said, a MASSIVE thank you for changing my life in the best way possible! Thank you for sharing your lives with me, giving me support & reminding me day after day that people really are good 💕

I love you all so much!

XOXO,

B

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Dec 10

Dear Hungry for Help,

We won’t pretend to be doctors or that we know how to improve egg quality through food. However, we did hunt down an excerpt from a great article that helps answer this question from @extendfertility

“While there’s no evidence that you should be eating certain foods to improve female egg quality, certain diets can improve fertility in women who have ovulatory disorders.

The “Fertility Diet” was developed as a result of a study that followed more than 17,500 married women for eight years. The study found that women who followed a certain diet—one that’s higher in monounsaturated fats than trans fats, higher in vegetable protein than animal protein, and includes low-glycemic carbs, high-fat dairy, multi-vitamins and iron in the form of plants and supplements—had a decreased risk of infertility related to ovulatory disorders.

The study concluded that this type of diet might increase fertility, and that diet and lifestyle modification may reduce the chance of infertility due to ovulation disorders. But generally, for most healthy women, there’s no evidence that a specific “fertility diet” can improve or increase their chance at pregnancy. As one study states, “there is no ‘one size fits all’ dietary intervention to boost fertility.”

A 2013 review of scientific literature looked at the effectiveness of the “Fertility Diet” in improving mitochondrial function in eggs. (Mitochondria provide energy to eggs, powering cell division and growth.) Researchers concluded that there’s good reason to further investigate nutritional treatment for infertility patients. So, while it’s not as simple as saying “these 10 foods can improve female egg quality”—we’re likely to see more compelling studies in the coming decades.”

Extend goes on to say one of the best things you can do for egg quality is to quit smoking if you do!

We hope this helps! XOXO 😘

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Dec 9

Happy Hump Day Rally Fam! 🐫

We have a little mid-week surprise! Our most popular Rally LIVE talk, WHO RUN THE WORLD: Superstar Female REs, is now live on our public Rally blog.

We want to not only educate, enlighten, & inspire our members, but the broader community as well. In this panel, the incredible @hilariously_infertile moderates a discussion between three amazing reproductive endocrinologists - @nataliecrawfordmd, @roohijeelanimd & @drlorashahine 💕

During the panel, they answer our burning #IVF questions, discuss social media’s role in reproductive medicine, how going through their own #infertilityjourney has effected the way they care for patients, & much more!

Watch in one sitting or break it up, whatever works, just make the time. Knowledge is power & to get these four women in one place to educate our #ttccommunity is HUGE!

Link in bio <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a>

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Dec 8

✨NEW RALLY BLOG POST ALERT!✨

Hi everyone!

Blair and I are constantly updating our Rally Blog, where we have Guest Posts and Expert Advice from people such as @nataliecrawfordmd, <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/oovalife/' rel='nofollow'>@oovalife</a> and embryologist @ilikemyeggsfertilised.

We also have Rally Posts that we write, and our Dear Rally column, where we answer all of your pressing #infertility and #fertilityjourney Qs!

One of our latest posts, by #infertilitywarrior @amygalloryan is called, "Learning—and Confessing—That Unexplained Infertility Was All My Fault."

In her excellent essay, journalist and now mom of three Amy talks about her chemical pregnancy, the guilt she felt during #unexplainefinfertility, and all the complicated feelings that entered her relationshiop with her husband.

"It was one thing to be the breaker of my own heart," she writes. "That I could find a way to live with. What was unbearable—un-survivable—was bringing this upon Tim."

Who has not been there and felt that? 💔

Thanks to Amy for writing this smart piece, which is available to EVERYONE who visits Fertilityrally.com. (We have exclusive content that's just for Members, but this, and much more content, is available to anyone. Check it out!)

Link in bio to read. Also heads up that Amy will be sharing her entire story on Ali’s podcast, Infertile AF, soon.❤️

Comment below if you have felt this way with your partner!

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Dec 7

Hey hey 👋🏻

We are back with #membercrushmonday & we are doing it a little different this week. We are introducing you to 3 of our newest members who joined this month!

Meet Sarah, Samantha & Payal! When we see new faces join the Rally, we get so excited. We love to take time to get to know each and every member because every story is unique. Every member teaches us a little something on how to better serve our community. This is why we love them so much!

Welcome ladies, we can’t wait to support you, love you and get to know you 💕

Join us in welcoming these ladies to the family... give them a follow and say hi - let’s show them how fun it is to #rallylikeamofo 💪🏽

Today is the last day to join this month! Get in on this massive group hug by heading to the link in our bio <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a>

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Dec 5

Hey #ttcsisters 👋🏻

If you drink more than 4 lattes (or any coffee shop drink) a month, you’re spending around $20 - probably more.

What if we told you that same $20 could get you the following all in one month?!

💕4-5 virtual support groups w/ #infertilitysisters

💕1 curated, themed virtual event

💕24/7 community

💕endless resources including blog posts, podcast episodes, access to past virtual events, video interviews, how to videos, discounts on fertility related products, merch, & SO MUCH MORE

Prioritize yourself, your mental health, & your fertility by investing in resources, education & all the support you could dream of!

Membership is only open until December 7th! Head to the link in our bio to join the Rally fam <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a> 💕

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Dec 4

🛑 S T O P ~ R E A L ~ Q U I C K 🛑

...and listen to this special message from one of our favorite people on the planet, @robynbirkin, tell you how incredibly strong, badass, & worthy you are!

You have arrived on our page & it’s time to recognize your inner badass & #rallylikeamofo

Support & encouragement like this is just the tip of the iceberg. Join our Rally fam as a monthly or annual member & get access to:

⚡️weekly virtual support groups
⚡️monthly curated virtual events
⚡️24/7 online, searchable community
⚡️expansive blog
⚡️bonus podcast episodes
⚡️video library of past events
⚡️10 mins w/ video interview series
⚡️discounts on Fertility goods/services
⚡️merch
⚡️downloadable lists & templates
⚡️discounts on Rally LIVE tickets
⚡️MUCH, MUCH MORE!

Membership is only open for 4 more days! Link in bio to join the Worst Club with the Best Members <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a>

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Dec 3

At our most highly attended talk at our first ever virtual Fertility Rally LIVE on October 24th called WHO RUN THE WORLD: Superstar Female REs, @roohijeelanimd provided this answer when asked, “What do you when your patient has a different idea about their treatment than what you’re recommending?”

Dr. Jeelani goes on to explain that as an #infertility patient herself, she has been there. She had to plead her case with her medical team for years, convincing them she had #PCOS. After years of treatments including failed #IVF, she spontaneously got pregnant with her daughter.

Nothing is a never! Find a doctor who lets you be in control of your journey, listens to your ideas and concerns, and helps you understand probabilities and likelihood’s for each option you’re considering.

This panel is now live on Rally on Demand - one of the many cool features of our membership site. For access to this recorded panel and SO many more, join as a monthly or annual member! Membership is only open until the 7th. We have so many resources like this one waiting for you!

Link in bio <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a>

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Dec 2

Hearing our members explain why they love being part of the Rally fam makes our hearts explode with happiness!

Kristen (w/ the help of her golden Cele - short for Celebration) explains the shift in her mindset to one that’s more positive.

At Fertility Rally you’ll feel seen and heard, which, as Kristen mentions, personalizes & humanizes #infertility. This makes all the difference when coping with the inevitable hard shit thrown your way.

Membership is open until 12/7, we’d love for you to join us so you can meet amazing people like @bonnikd, feel less alone and be showered love and support.

PS: Your furry friends are a huge part of the Rally too! We highly encourage brining them to our virtual support groups! 🥰

Link in bio to join <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a>

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Dec 1

FERTILITY RALLY DOORS ARE OPEN!

The Rally membership is open again today for just one week, until Dec 7th!

This month, everyone who joins will receive a FREE Fertility Rally holiday ornament! Swipe to see it!

Also, every member who refers someone who joins will get a $5 Starbucks gift card!

The Worst Club with the Best Members offers 24/7 community, searchable profiles so you can connect with other members, a Rally Feed message board where you can ask questions, share treatment details and vent, plus our TWO WEEKLY SUPPORT GROUPS (one 45 min “anything goes” share and one 45 min featuring a fertility expert, warrior, doctor or coach).

We also have a new group for newly pregnant members that started last night: Pregnancy After Infertility—because we know that it's complicated, and the anxiety when you are pregnant after loss can be high. We promise to be here for you guys throughout your entire journeys, even after you get that BFP.

Each month, we also have at least one themed event, such as “Building Your Modern Family When You’re LGBTQ,” “Infertility and Women of Color,” "All About Surrogacy" and “All Things PCOS.”

Other Rally Membership Offerings:
⚡️Rally on Demand archive of dozens of past events
⚡️ Expert Q & As
⚡️Guest Blogs
⚡️Dear Rally Column
⚡️Bonus Podcasts hosted by Ali & Blair
⚡️”10 Mins With...” chats w/ influencers & thought leaders
⚡️Meditation & Yoga Videos
⚡️And so much more

As a member, you also get exclusive discounts on our favorite fertility-friendly brands, from @oova to @natalistco to @myvitro — plus 10% off all Rally merch.

This is the place we wish we'd had when we were in the thick of our shittyAF infertility journeys. This safe space is for everyone. Come and check out our fam!

We have monthly memberships for $19.99, annual for $199 and GIFTABLE MEMBERSHIPS for 3 months, 6 months and a year.

Invest in yourself or a loved one. We’d love to Rally with you!

#rallylikeamofo

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Nov 28

You guys! It’s the last day to score our best price of the year. For $119 you’ll get access to:

- 48+ weekly virtual support groups
- 12+ curated virtual events
- video library
- bonus podcast episodes
- fertility discounts
- 24/7 community
- discounted tickets to Rally LIVE events
- expansive blog
- cool merch
- so much more

Invest in yourself & in your journey. Come be a part of our Rally fam! Link in bio <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a> 💕

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Nov 27

PREGNANCY AFTER INFERTILITY

This is Ever and me at the baby shower my friends threw for me on October 24, 2015, about seven weeks before Sonny, my IVF baby, was born.

As many of you know, Pregnancy After Infertility is no walk in the park. From the minute you find out until you are holding that baby in your arms, you're a ball of nerves.

Every appointment brings a deep anxiety that only infertiles know.

Every ultrasound has you holding your breath.

Every time you pee, you're terrified to see blood on the toilet paper.

In the later months, if you don't feel the baby's movement, you panic.

You can't ever, truly relax.

Don’t get me wrong: You’re elated to be pregnant—that it finally worked. You know how incredibly lucky you are.

It’s not like you're miserable the entire time, or you can't experience moments of joy (like at this shower, where two of my best friends, @klflynn1 and @helen_walters, gave the most incredible speeches that left the room in a puddle).

But infertility never leaves you. The pain of loss (after loss after loss and after loss) forever scars your heart.

You're self-protective. Nervous. Always waiting for the other shoe to drop.

With this in mind, I'm super happy to tell you that Blair and I have formed a new "Pregnancy After Infertility" Zoom Support Group, for our several members who are now pregnant. The first one is next Monday, 11/30. We've also formed a Pregnancy After Infertility group in our 24/7 Community, where members can go to connect, vent, celebrate and ask questions.

We know how important it is to have support throughout your entire journey, even after you see those two pink lines, and we want to be there as a safe space and a sounding board. Blair, who's now pregnant after her fifth round of IVF, is right there with you.

That's the beauty of Fertility Rally. We've been there. We are there. We are never leaving.

Join us if you'd like. We are offering our lowest price of the year through Saturday night: Just $119 for an annual membership. Link in bio to sign up.

We can't wait to see a lot of you on Monday—and hopefully some new faces, too. We are all in this together.

❤️

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Nov 26

To say we are grateful for our Rally family, the #ttccommunity & the #infertilitycommunity is the understatement of the century. We both love serving this community more than anything we’ve ever done professionally & the reason for that is all of you!

The empathy, grace, compassion, perseverance, strength, grit & love you exemplify is awe inspiring! We are grateful to know you, to serve you & to walk alongside you every step of the way.

To those celebrating, have an incredible Thanksgiving! Sending you so much love 💕

XOXO

Blair & Ali

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Nov 25

🛍 B L A C K 🛒 F R I D A Y 🛍 S A L E 🛒

Hey Rally Fam! We are excited to announce our Black Friday sale on annual memberships 💃🏼

From today through Saturday, you can join the Rally as an annual member for only $119! That’s $80 off — our lowest offered price EVER!!!

A reminder of what we offer:

- weekly virtual support groups (45 min member only share + 45 min themed discussion w/ a special guest)

- monthly virtual events covering topics such as intimacy, nutrition, donor conception, LGBTQ family building, surrogacy & more

- 24/7 searchable community - join groups to connect w/ members w/ a similar diagnosis, vent on our catch-all Rally feed & chat one-on-one

- extensive blog including posts curated by Rally founders & guest authors

- bonus podcast eps cohosted by <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertility-rally-38/' rel='nofollow'>@fabfertility</a> & @infertileafstories

- fun “10 mins w/“ interviews w/ amazing voices in the #infertility space such as @myfertilitycare, <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/samanthabusch/' rel='nofollow'>@samanthabusch</a> & @sashahakmanmd

- PERKS on perks on perks - discounts on fertility products & services

- Cool Shit - downloadables & our infamous CSOTW (cool shit of the week) piece featuring items you can’t live without

GUESS WHAT?! You can also GIFT a membership. That’s right - we have giftable options at the same killer price!

Any Q’s? DM us - we are always here to help! We hope you’ll take advantage of our lowest price yet & join our Rally fam 😘

Visit the code in our bio & use code RALLYBLACK at checkout <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a>

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Nov 24

HEY RALLY FAM!

Did you know that we have an interview series on our site called "10 Mins With..." in which we interview big and interesting voices from all aspects of the infertility community?

Our thought was that these quick, irreverent, fun interviews would be the perfect things to watch while sitting in your doctor's waiting room—but really, they can be watched any time you have 10 minutes to spare. (And yes, we time them so they are quick and dirty and easily digestible!)

Our latest "10 Mins..." is with Sasha Hakman, aka Dr. Fierce. @sashahakmanmd

Sasha is a board certified OBGYN, a vegan powerlifter, a PCOS warrior, and a phenomenal woman who answers our rapid fire questions about why she got into this field, how she got the nickname Dr. Fierce, her favorite Beyonce song, and more ⚡️⚡️⚡️

We've also done "10 Mins With..."
<a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/samanthabusch/' rel='nofollow'>@samanthabusch</a>
@jennjaypal
@myfertilitycare
@bean.and.biscuit
Who else would you like to see?
Drop their name below!

Members, check these interviews out! If you are not yet a member, make sure to get on the waiting list at link in bio.

⚡️⚡️WE HAVE A HUGE MEMBERSHIP SURPRISE COMING TOMORROW! ⚡️⚡️

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Nov 23

It’s #membercrushmonday & today we are showing some extra love to @lauraadamsartist 💕

Hometown: Wayne, Pennsylvania

#TTCjourney in a nutshell: Trying to conceive for two and a half years with #MFI and #PCOS—starting our first round of IVF this month!

Guilty pleasure: My daily afternoon tea ritual 🍵

Go-to mantra: “With God all things are possible.” 🙌🏻

Three fun facts about Laura:

1) The coast of Maine is my happy place.. I can sit watching the waves crash for hours.

2) I actually love budgeting and Excel spreadsheets (which is useful when you’re trying to pay for #IVF)

3) I’m obsessed with interior decorating and my dream is to eventually start some type of design consulting business (whenever I get passed the nightmare of #infertility)!

Help us show some love to Laura! Laura, we are cheering you on as you take on IVF, you’re gonna rock it 💪🏽 😘

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Nov 20

Hey Rally fam 👋🏻

It’s #founderfriday so I’m sharing a little about me. I chose this picture because it shows that you don’t have to sacrifice the things that bring you joy just because 2020 is a dumpster fire 🗑 🔥

Facts about me:

- I am obsessed w/ holidays, especially Christmas

- I love volunteering. I was raised to always give back to my community & it is one of the most fulfilling things I do.

- I love animals. When I was a child my bed was covered in stuffed ones. I’ve had everything from turtles, snakes & tarantulas to cats, dogs & hamsters. I currently have 14 animals & would have more if I could. I recently realized having so many goes beyond loving feathers & fur; I have so many because of my intense desire to love & nurture.

So with all of that in mind, here I am not letting 2020 rob me of my joy. Yes, I’m in my mask (which is now just excuse for more cute accessories), but I am still volunteering, being goofy on this unicorn & getting in the Christmas spirit. 🦄 🎄

What brings you joy?! How are you still making it happen despite this crisis year? Your ideas could inspire others so please share in comments 👇🏼

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Nov 19

🎁🎁HAPPY RALLIDAYS!🎁🎁

Guys, we made you an ornament!

We know that the holiday season can be THE WORST—full of triggers and heartache and questions from family members and all the feels.

We also know that it's important to find the joy where you can get it, whether it's decorating early, slipping out to grab a festive mocha choco frappy peppermint latte or collecting holiday trinkets that make you smile.

We hope our sweet little (3-inch) ceramic ornament is a reminder that no matter where you are on this journey, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. We will all get through this holiday season together. Pinky promise.

From now until Saturday, it's just $10 (plus $3 shipping domestic/$5 shipping Canada) via Paypal or Venmo. To snag yours, email us at thefertilityrally@gmail.com with your name and address, and we'll take it from there. (It's also an adorbs gift to send your #TTC sisters--just sayin!)

We have some other fun RALLIDAYS events planned too, so stay tuned!

We love you!
Ali and Blair

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Nov 18

Hey Rally Fam! If you don’t already follow, @jazzkatat - go do it!

Not only is she an #ivfwarrior with an incredible story, she is a strategist coach & artist who works with women to focus on the importance of SELF. We must say, her art is beautiful! Just look at this graphic!

This week at the second part of our Rally Together Support Group, Jasmine will join us to share her story & lead us through a “reframing exercise” where we will take a question we all ask ourselves on our #infertilityjourney & reframe it into the bigger picture. RSVP on our member site & bring a pen and paper!

It’s going to be amazing!

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Nov 17

If you’ve gone through #ivf, did you test your embryos?

At Rally LIVE this was a hot topic on our Who Run the World: Superstar Female REs panel. It is a highly debated subject in the field of reproductive medicine and a decision many of us patients have a hard time with.

This poll was taken the day of Rally LIVE, and while you can see the majority have tested, many have not.

If you’re debating it, you can arm yourself with expert knowledge by either checking out the panel mentioned above (all Rally LIVE programming is available until 11/23) and/or you can check out our “All Things IVF” event that you can find on fertilityrally.com under past events.

We would love to hear if you tested your embryos. Why or why not?! Drop your answer in comments below 👇🏼

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Nov 16

It's #membercrushmonday!

Today we are crushing on our amazing member, Sarah Weintraub. Here's a bit about her. Follow her at @iamstillsarah for even more!

HOMETOWN: Sacramento, CA

TTC JOURNEY IN ONE SENTENCE: It's been a longer and harder journey than I ever could have imagined, but I still believe it will happen for us.

GUILTY PLEASURE: Chocolate

GO-TO MANTRA: "Tomorrow is a new day." (My husband says this to me before bed whenever I've had a hard day.)

THREE FUN FACTS:

1. My husband and I met on a dating app and I asked him on our first date.

2. I ran a half marathon 7 years ago and haven't run a day since.

3. I love cooking and trying new recipes, but rarely follow recipes as they're written.

Sarah, the Rally wouldn't be the same without you! We love you and are rooting for you, girl!

xoxo Ali and Blair

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Nov 13

It's Founder Friday, the new feature where Blair and I are sharing something personal to hopefully help you on your #fertilityjourney.

I've talked about this before, but I will say it again and again, because it's important to let you know that you are not alone:

Secondary Infertility almost ruined my relationship with Vince.

We started dating at 16, when Vince had braces on his teeth (!!) and I was an aerobics instructor at Women's Workout World. (It was the mid-90s, yall. 😂) We got married at 27, not rushing into having kids. At 35, I had our daughter, Ever.

Then for three years, we struggled through infertility hell. Four miscarriages, two IUIs, dozens of OPKs, countless tears. I was depressed. I wanted another baby more than anything. We fought about sex, money, doing IVF, and the different ways we were processing the shit we were going through. At one point, we were at an impasse and I said to him, "Are we gonna make it?" And he said, 'I honestly don't know."

It wasn't easy, and it never is, but here we are. I always say that marriage is a decision. And we made a decision to fight for ours.

I'm mentioning this again because it needs to be screamed from the rooftops that the immeasurable havoc infertility wreaks on your relationship is part of this whole thing. It's normal. It sucks, but it's normal. I will show you my darkness so hopefully you can come into the light.

My only advice would be to talk to each other. Sometimes it's easier to take car rides or walks so you're not staring each other in the face, making an intense conversation that much more intense. Get therapy if you can. Fight for it if you want to. Take it a day at a time.

It's hard, guys. I'm not gonna lie. But you are not alone.

Love, Ali

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Nov 12

Today we’re answering another Q from our community in our Rally version of Dear Abby. (Always remember, this is just our friendly advice—run everything by your doctor first!)

This week:
How does acupuncture benefit fertility treatments?

Our answer:
Acupuncture is the therapeutic insertion of needles, based on the Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) theory that channels flow through the body, conducting the flow of vital energy and helping to regulate the way in which the body functions.

TO SUPPORT FERTILITY

From a TCM perspective, when the energy in the body is imbalanced, it can lead to illness and physical issues, including infertility. More fertility specialists are recognizing the benefits of acupuncture and recommending it to their patients to help with their fertility journeys and to increase their chances of healthy conception and birth. During the procedure, the acupuncturist inserts sterile (painless) needles into specific points on your body, which connect with 14 major pathways called meridians. When needled, these points can help regulate the way in which the body functions.

Acupuncture has also been known to increase blood flow to the reproductive organs, balancing the endocrine system (where sex, mood and sleep hormones are manufactured) and helping reduce stress. Acupuncture for fertility can provide better blood flow to the ovaries and uterus, helping improve the quality and receptivity of sperm and eggs, and creating a stronger chance for an egg to be nourished and carried to term. Needling can also help regulate ovulation and ease the pain of endometriosis, a common factor in infertility, according to some studies.

TO AID PREGNANCY

The goal of acupuncture for fertility is not just to get pregnant, but to stay pregnant and maintain a healthy, stress-free pregnancy. Acupuncture can aid in many different ways, both mentally and physically. For one, it optimizes the circulation of blood, oxygen and nutrients to help improve the quality of the uterine lining and uterus as a whole.

It can also help decrease symptoms of morning sickness, reduce heartburn and assuage lower back and pelvic pain.

Have a Q? Drop it below❤️

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Nov 11

What the heck am I doing with Rubik’s cube & hat props?!

I’m getting ready for the FREE TO ATTEND @resolveorg Night of Hope being held this Thursday, Nov 12th from 8:00-9:30 PM ET!

This year it’s an 80’s theme with a nod to Back to the Future (hence the props) - see more awesomeness in our stories!

The Night of Hope focuses on what we can do together as a community & celebrates those committed to opening the doors of opportunity for everyone struggling with #infertility to build a family.

A breakdown of the night:

8-8:30 PM: Resolve will give three Hope Awards for Advocacy (shout out to our girl @chloemelas) & one for Access in addition to the Advocacy Legend Award.

8:30-9:30 PM: Party for a Purpose 🎉 Enjoy some killer 80’s music by the @thespazmatics, updates from Resolve, mixology convo with some kick ass recipes & supporter shout outs!

Again, this event is FREE to attend virtually! Head over to @resolveorg or visit the link in our bio to learn how to attend <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a>

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Nov 10

One of the perks of being a Rally member is the 24/7 community where you can interact with other members either through the Rally feed or one of these niche groups. One of our popular groups is #FET ❄️

In this group you will find women sharing their transfer dates, protocols, questions, advice, encouragement, symptoms, etc.

While we have groups that cover TONS of topics, we empower our members to start their own groups. This platform is for them after all! One of our fave member curated groups is, “Unique Uteruses” started by @jpsbivfjourney 💕

To get in on this action, visit the link in our bio to sign up for the waitlist to be the first to know when we open! Membership opens in December and we might have a surprise up our sleeves too 😉

What group(s) would you like to see? Share in comments 👇🏼

XOXO,

Blair & Ali

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Nov 9

Happy Monday Rally Fam! It’s #membercrushmonday time & this week we are crushin’ on <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/laurenaredfern/' rel='nofollow'>@laurenaredfern</a> 💕

Hometown: Dingmans Ferry, PA

TTC journey in one sentence: “Unexplained and trying to figure out where to go from here.” 🙏🏼

Favorite treatment treat: Venti Pink Drink 💝

Guilty pleasure: Binge watching Vampire Diaries 🧛‍♀️

Your go to mantra or quote: "Am I good enough? Yes I am." Michelle Obama, Becoming 💪🏽

Three fun facts about Lauren:

1. I can find the perfect meme for any work situation 😂

2. I love cross stitching family portraits for family and friends 🧵

3. I am a master at finding coupon codes and discounts, I really don't like to pay retail 💰

Go give Lauren a follow. She is so amazing - look at that laugh!

Lauren, you’re awesome!

XOXO, Blair & Ali

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Nov 7

We are starting a little something fun on Friday called, “Founder Friday” where Ali or myself will come on our feed to share something to help on your #fertilityjourney - nothing is off limits!

One thing I get asked all the time is, “What are your tips for preparing for a frozen embryo transfer?” So let’s start there!

While I am not a doctor, I can share what I did before my last transfer. This is a collection of things I researched, learned from other warriors, & was instructed to do by my medical team (acupuncturist, RE & therapist). This isn’t my protocol, but rather habits & routines!

Mediation: Leading up to the transfer I mediated every night. I alternated between Yoga Nidra & Spirit Baby mediations. My fave apps are Expectful, Mindful IVF & Insight Timer.

Acupuncture: I went religiously every week for months leading up to the transfer. I mediated there too! Pro tip: take your headphones or pods & listen to your mediation while you’re on the table.

Supplements: I took my prenatal & DHA daily. I like Thorne prenatal & Nordic Naturals DHA.

Exercise: Starting a couple of weeks before & then after the transfer, I dialed my exercise routine back to just walking - 5 miles a day! I took a few days off after the transfer due to doctor’s orders.

Warm feet = warm womb: this is believed to be true in Chinese medicine; I slept & still sleep in cozy socks! I also kept a heating pad on my feet for weeks before & after my transfer while I slept.

Blood nourishing foods: to thicken the lining of my uterus I drank pomegranate juice, ate orange foods like carrots & sweet potatoes, lots of leafy greens & drank bone broth daily! (acupuncturist reco)

Avoided cold foods: to keep my body warm & digestion smooth, I focused on warm foods and room temperature water (acupuncturist reco)

Journaled: I wrote a letter to my embryo, wrote about things I thought/felt or things that Will said.

Went to therapy: every other week with my husband to talk through all of our anxiety & fear (we enjoy having a time & place to talk about the heavy shit so we can try to focus on other things otherwise)

I hope this helps!!! Comment with any questions & I’ll answer ASAP!

XOXO, B

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Nov 5

Each Thursday we will answer a Q from our community advice column style - a Rally version of Dear Abby if you will. This is a spin off of our blog feature on our member site.

This week’s question:

How do I emotionally & physically keep moving forward [on my #infertilityjourney] after repeat failure?

Our answer:

Dear emotionally & physically exhausted,

Infertility is not for the faint of heart; it brings even the strongest people to their knees. While there isn’t a “one size fits all” approach to keep trucking through the dark, messy & cold trenches, here are some tips on what has helped us & what has helped others we have talked to.

Emotionally:

❤️ Therapy - couples or solo, especially with someone who specializes in infertility; not only does having an unbiased third party work wonders, but it’s nice to hold a space to have the hard conversations & unload the heavy shit so you can live your life the rest of the time.

❤️ Self-care - mediation, baths, retail therapy, taking a day off to just be, reading a book, indulge in a spa treatment, etc.; all of these things can provide an important reset when you feel you’ve hit rock bottom.

❤️ Build up your support system - friends, family, social media buddies, a support group, your therapist; find who you’re comfortable opening up to & hold on tight.

Physically:

⏰ Take a break when it’s necessary - hormones do weird things to our bodies & after a failed treatment, not only do you feel shitty it didn’t work but you may not like how you look & feel physically. Taking a month (or two or three) off to get back to feeling like yourself again can make such a difference & get you ready to start again.

🙏🏼 Give yourself grace - we oftentimes get mad at or even claim we “hate” our bodies for not cooperating; instead think of how amazing it is that it’s even cooperating at all when we are pushing it so hard.

💪🏽 Stay active - unless you’re prohibited by your doctor or flat out don’t feel like it, stay active; a walk, a bike ride, spin class, garage workout, yoga practice, etc. - you’ll be surprised how good you feel (even after failure) when you move your body on a regular basis.

XOXO,

Blair & Ali

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Nov 4

WORST CLUB. BEST MEMBERS.

We can't think of one person who ever wanted to join this shitty, shitty infertility club.

But we can think of thousands of people who are now in it—and who are absolutely incredible. If our #fertilityconfessions movement this week (where more than 400 people used the hashtag) showed us anything, it's that this community is filled with strongAF people who want to help each other by blasting stigmas, shunning taboos and sharing the good, the bad and the ugly.

That’s why we created Fertility Rally. We are so proud to offer a safe space where people can find 24/7 community, ever-evolving content and tons of curated events.

We've poured our hearts into this community and this platform, and if you haven't already, we would love for you to join us.

From TWO support groups a week to expert Q and As and interviews to a real-time community of people who are IN IT, it's all here for you.

Memberships are $19.99/month or $199/year. We also have GIFTABLE memberships, the perfect answer to the question, "How do I help someone I love who is struggling?" Give them the gift of support for 3 months, 6 months, or a year.

Let us know if you have any questions. We are only open til November 7th, so join our fam now at link in bio!

YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

Love, Ali and Blair

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Nov 3

🇺🇸 Happy Election Day 🇺🇸

We do a lot of COOL SHIT here at <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a> (if we do say so ourselves) - one of which is our weekly Cool Shit of the Week feature.

This week, we’re feathering our fave election finds. Item 3 is particularly cool - it’s the 100th anni of the 19th amendment that gave women the right to vote 💪🏽 👯‍♀️

If you haven’t voted yet, go do it! So many women fought their asses off for us to have this right!

For access to the full catalog of CSOTW features, a video library covering all sorts of #infertility topics, weekly support groups, extensive blog, 24/7 online community & so much more - join our membership! We have monthly & annual options. Membership is open until the 7th! Link in our bio <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a>

XOXO, Blair & Ali 💕

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Nov 2

Happy Monday! We are starting a Rally member weekly spotlight called #membercrushmonday 💕

We are kicking it off with the amazing Kim Maimone! You can find her over at @mera_ruler_of_the_sea & @merasmission

Let’s get to know Kim better:

Hometown: Fernandina Beach, FL ☀️

#TTCjourney in one sentence: It’s been a marathon, not a sprint. 🏃‍♀️

Favorite treatment treat: French fries & Gatorade 🍟

Guilty pleasure: Pedicures! 💕

Your go to mantra or quote: Keep Fucking Moving! 💪🏽

Three fun facts about Kim:

1. I can recite the names of all 50 states in alpha order.

2. I’m obsessed w/ Harry Potter... I have a snitch tattoo.

3. I am an expert at starting kitchen fires.

Kim, we love you, your advocacy efforts within our #ttccommunity & your strong AF spirit! Thanks for letting us show you some extra love today 😘

XOXO, Blair & Ali

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Nov 1

💗FERTILITY RALLY MEMBERSHIPS ARE NOW OPEN!💗

It's Nov 1, which means that our memberships are open from now until Nov 7th.

The Worst Club with the Best Members offers 24/7 community, searchable profiles so you can connect with other members, a Rally Feed message board where you can ask questions, share treatment details and vent, plus our TWO WEEKLY SUPPORT GROUPS (one 45 min “anything goes” share and one 45 min featuring a fertility expert, warrior, doctor or coach).

Our Curated Content Includes:
⚡️Expert Q & As
⚡️Guest Blogs
⚡️Dear Rally Column
⚡️Bonus Podcasts hosted by Ali & Blair
⚡️”10 Mins w/...” chats w/ influencers & thought leaders
⚡️Meditation & Yoga Videos
⚡️Rally on Demand archive of dozens of past events
⚡️And so much more

As a member, you also get exclusive discounts on our favorite fertility-friendly brands, from @oova to @natalistco to @myvitro — plus 10% off all Rally merch.

Each month, we also have at least one themed event, such as “Building Your Modern Family When You’re LGBTQ,” “Infertility and Women of Color” and “All Things PCOS.”

This is the place we wish we'd had when we were in the thick of our shittyAF infertility journeys. This safe space is for everyone. Come and check out our fam!

Take it from our member, Cherish:
“I really want to thank you guys for creating such an awesome place for all of us women to meet. This journey is one of the hardest and loneliest that I have ever been through. I am 3 years into this journey and have been to many other fertility support groups but yours is my favorite. Not only is it such a raw and positive environment but I love the speakers that you guys have had the last few weeks.”

We have monthly memberships for 19.99, annual for $199 and GIFTABLE MEMBERSHIPS for 3 months, 6 months and a year.

Invest in yourself or a loved one. We’d love to Rally with you!

#rallylikeamofo

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Oct 30

No matter which way you lean, this is your friendly *Rally Reminder* to get out & vote!

As early voters in our respective states of New York & Texas, we can tell you that’s the way to go!

We included a link in our bio showing when early voting ends in each state. Check it out b/c some states (like Texas) end today!

Let’s exercise our civil rights, which so many before us fought for us to have 💪🏽 🇺🇸

#RALLYLIKEAMOFO

Blair & Ali

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Oct 29

Exercise & #infertility - such a hot topic. So many restrictions. So much conflicting information.

We are both exercise fiends - @soulcycle & spin fiends to be more precise 🚴 🔥

Sometimes exercise is the only outlet to get out all of the aggression & frustration that comes along with the waiting & failure. At the same time we have questions like, “How much is too much? What amount of exercise will negatively affect my treatments?”

That is why we are SO grateful to @bodyconceptions for writing this amazing article for our Rally site.

Read more by following the link in our bio <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a>

What’s your fave form of exercise?! 👇🏻

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Oct 27

This week wouldn’t be complete without a Hocus Pocus GIF 👻 🧙‍♀️

While we can’t prevent your Cousin Helen with three kids all dressed in adorably triggering costumes from asking, “So when are you finally gonna have one of these?” - we can give you some tips on how to respond.

HARSH RESPONSE:
“If you want to see what a witch really looks like, ask me that again.” Hint: STFU

EDUCATIONAL RESPONSE:
“Did you know 1 in 8 couples experience infertility?” Hint: Think before you speak.

TACTFUL RESPONSE:
“It isn’t as easy for us as it is for some.” Hint: We are having a really hard time & I wish you wouldn’t have asked.

DODGE RESPONSE:
“We’re working on it.” Hint: Next topic, please.

When in doubt, head for the candy bowl for a Snickers. Hang in their #ttcsisters - Halloween can be triggering. Mute social, carve a pumpkin, light a fire, watch a horror flick & eat some candy. This too shall pass! 🎃

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Oct 25

Holy shit guys! The first ever Fertility Rally LIVE is in the books 👏🏼 🎉

By some miracle, we only experienced two minor technological hiccups - we will call that a success!!! We cried so many happy tears watching this happen today. We couldn’t do it without the support from all of you & we are grateful to you every single day! Whether you are a sponsor, speaker, member and/or attendee, this is possible because of you!

GOOD NEWS! The offish day may be over, but Fertility Rally LIVE lives on! That’s right, you can still buy tix & watch ALL the talks for the next 30 days! It was an amazing day - don’t take our word for it - head to our stories for what everyone who attended is saying 👯‍♀️

Link in our bio to buy tix <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a>

#RALLYLIKEAMOFO (but first, we’re gonna get some sleep)

XOXO, Blair & Ali

PS: A little secret, Rally memberships are open until 11:59 PM ET 🤫

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Oct 24

🎉 G I V E A W A Y S 🎉

Another reason to buy a ticket to Rally LIVE, happening TOMORROW from 9-6ET!

We had so many amazing sponsors & partners donate items, we had to make a spreadsheet to keep track! The willingness to make others’ journeys better in this #ttccommunity is so inspiring. We can’t wait to give the items pictured here plus so many more away tomorrow 💕

Grab your ticket to the Rally for a chance to win & to have your mind blown by our amazing speakers by visiting the link in our bio <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a>

We’d like to thank our giveaway sponsors:

@cozywarriororg
@fertilityinfocus
@uniquely_knitted
@anookathletics
@proovtest
@beli.baby
@darcydoodles
@kela_healthcoach
@incirclefertility
@mybinto
@mirafertility
@thewaitinglinebook
@brusso18
@expectful
@fairhavenhealth
@natalistco
@premamawellness
@wearerobyn
@tulipfertility

Reminder: ticket holders have access to the sessions & talks for 30 days after the event so if you can’t make it when it’s actually happening, no sweat!

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Oct 22

RALLY LIKE A MOFO

This has been our Fertility Rally motto since day one (alongsIde our tagline, Worst Club. Best Members.)

Rallying can mean so many things:
Joining together in one of the many support groups in our community, even if it's just to listen.

Sending a sweet text to a friend who got shitty and sad results.

Mailing a pineapple card to someone because you saw it at Target and it made you think of her.

Being one of your #ttcsisters "Closies" so she can confess her deepest anxieties.

Reading a book that someone else in this community poured their heart and soul into.

Buying a tee from someone's IVF fundraiser.

Sending virtual hugs and Baby Dust.

There is no wrong way to Rally Like a Mofo.

This weekend, we hope Rallying for you means coming together virtually to watch some of our 35+ amazing speakers, chatting in our virtual lobby, exploring our exhibitor booths, winning some of our awesome giveaways and celebrating how strong we are as a community.

Each one of you is fucking amazing. We salute you. And we are all in this together.

We hope to #rallylikeamofo with you at the first-ever Rally Live. Get your tickets at link in bio! VIP ticket gets your our Virtual Swag Bag with hundreds of dollars in fertility-friendly discounts and deals. And VIP after party access w our biggest giveaway of the day!

xoxo Ali and Blair

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Oct 20

A HUGE THANK YOU TO OUR PHENOMENAL RALLY LIVE SPONSORS! 🎉🎉🎉🎉

One of the best parts of planning our first-ever Fertility Rally Live has been partnering with some of the coolest and most forward-thinking brands and companies in the infertility and wellness space.

We have had the best time connecting with these brands, brainstorming the best ways to partner together and talking about our shared visions: To make your infertility and wellness experiences better, safer, more comfortable, more effective, more supported and LESS SUCKY than ever before.

As you know, we created the FR membership and Rally Live because these are things we wish we'd had while we were going through our infertility journeys.

And we have hand-picked each and every sponsor because we love what they are doing, and we know that you will too.

Lots of the brands shown here are featured in the VIP Swag bag, which contains HUNDREDS of $$$ in discounts, so if you haven't yet grabbed your ticket, make sure to choose the VIP option, which also gets you into our VIP After Party, where we'll be doing our biggest giveaways of the day!

The event is THIS SAT 10/24! ALL TICKETS, GA or VIP, are $10 off with code RALLYWITHUS.
Join us! Invest in yourself! (Link in bio!)

A huge, heartfelt THANK YOU to all of our amazing partners! We cannot wait to #rallylikeamofo with all of you!

xoxo Ali and Blair

<a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/oovalife/' rel='nofollow'>@oovalife</a>
@igenomixusa
@coopergenomics
@altopharmacy
@proovtest
@fertility_ny
@mybinto
@gostorky
@mirafertility
@myvitro
@abcsurrogacy
@hellobestshot
@cryingoutloudto
@premamawellness
@expectful
@incirclefertility
@y7studio
@wearerobyn
@giftoflifeohio
@natalistco
@hormonepuzzlemethod
@sayhelloeden
@anookathletics
@embieapp
@beli.baby
@fertilityinfocus
@fairhaven_health

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Oct 19

To all you Moiras out there who haven’t bought your ticket to Fertility Rally LIVE, there is a promo code you can use to score $10 off your general admission or VIP ticket!

Visit the link in our bio & use code RALLYWITHUS

You don’t want to miss this all day, virtual event celebrating our amazing #ttccommunity - 30+ speakers, 17 breakouts sessions, 2 keynotes, 2 panels, 75+ giveaways, 1 happy hour, and infinite love & support 👯‍♀️ 🎉

#RALLYLIKEAMOFO

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Oct 18

We are less than a week away from our first ever Fertility Rally LIVE - a day long, action packed virtual celebration of our kick ass community 🎉

If you haven’t purchased your ticket, head to the link in our bio & do it now! <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a>

Keynotes, panels, breakout sessions, interaction with other warriors, giveaways, and of course, a happy hour! Come celebrate your strength & leave inspired, educated & empowered knowing you invested in yourself 💪🏽

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Oct 17

Rally LIVE bloopers! We don’t promise perfect, we promise fun!

You guys... Rally LIVE is one week away 🎉

October 24th is about YOU! It’s about celebrating the strength of the #ttccommunity by bringing together some of the biggest voices & brightest minds to inspire, unite & educate 👏🏼

If you haven’t bought your ticket yet, visit the link in our bio & use code RALLYWITHUS for $10 off💰

We promise laughs & plenty of surprises too 😂

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Oct 17

We are a week away from Rally LIVE & we can’t believe it 🤸‍♀️

We couldn’t be more excited by what we have planned! Here is a snapshot of what’s in store 👏🏼

A couple of key reminders:

💰 Use code RALLYWITHUS for $10 off your ticket

📅 You don’t have to attend the day of to watch all the sessions - buy a ticket & gain access to all sessions for 30 days

🛍 VIP tix include a virtual SWAG bag with deals & offers worth $1,000s of dollars

Come RALLY with us! 👯‍♀️ 🎉

We love you all,

Blair & Ali

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Oct 15

Tonight we join the 1,000’s of women & men worldwide who will light a candle from 7:00-8:00 PM in their respective time zones to honor lost children in the #waveoflight2020 🕯💕

Our losses are a big reason behind our WHY.

Why we started our podcasts.

Why we share our stories so openly.

Why we started Fertility Rally.

We strive to offer the support in as many ways possible so that NO ONE feels alone on their journey.

To all of our #ttcsisters who have experienced #miscarriage, #infantloss & grief of any kind on their #ttcjourney, we are here for you & we see you.

We invite you to light your candles knowing there are 1,000’s of others doing the same.

So much love,

Blair & Ali 💕

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Oct 14

What does a VIP ticket to Fertility Rally LIVE get you?!

1) All-day admission on Oct 24th to attend as many sessions as you want (we have sessions going on from 9A - 6P ET) + the ability to watch any & all sessions for 30 days after the event (over ELEVEN hours of content) 👏🏼

2) VIRTUAL SWAG BAG w/ exclusive discounts & offers from the amazing brands featured in this post (we have everything from athletic gear, to online yoga, to supplements, fertility organizational tools, apps, fertility wellness courses & more) 🧘‍♀️ 💊 📖

3) Access to our VIP After Party where we will be gifting our most exciting giveaways of the day 🎉

VIP tickets are $75 —> act fast using code RALLYWITHUS & receive $10 off! The event is less than two weeks away! Link is in our bio <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a> 🏃‍♀️ 🏃‍♀️ 🏃‍♀️

#RALLYLIKEAMOFO

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Oct 13

We know what you really want to see... CHICK CONTENT 🐥 💕

Meet our mascot, Rally, the Silkie chicken who resides on Nelson Manor (aka Blair’s house) 😂

Ironically enough, Rally is the only full grown female chicken on Nelson Manor who doesn’t lay eggs, so perhaps she is #infertile too 🤷🏼‍♀️

Her favorite food is yogurt & watermelon & she LOVES snuggles. We have a highlights section dedicated to her if you’d like to get to know her a little better!

We hope this brightened your day! One of our goals at Fertility Rally is to mix the light with the heavy always!

XOXO,

Blair, Ali & Rally

#rallylikeamofo #silkiesofinstagram

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Oct 12

Fertility Rally LIVE is a one-day action packed virtual infertility celebration on October 24th featuring 30+ amazing speakers! You will hear from top experts in reproductive medicine, fertility business owners and infertility warriors with the goal of answering our burning fertility treatment questions, giving insight to the different paths to parenthood, sharing wellness tips, emphasizing the power of community, and so much more.
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Rally LIVE is designed for anyone and everyone navigating infertility to build their modern families! Our event is designed so you can customize your own experience based on your interests and where you are at on your #infertilityjourney
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The day is planned in AM & PM blocks, each of which will include a keynote, panel & two breakouts sessions, choose-your-own-adventure style. We will end the day with a kick ass happy hour with a TON of giveaways and surprises! Date doesn’t work?! No prob. Everything will be recorded - all ticket holders will get access to every session after the event!
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Head to the link in our bio to snag your ticket for $10 off using code ‘RALLYWITHUS’! We can’t wait to see you there 🤗

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Oct 12

This morning we announced that some of our members would be taking over our stories this week to share their #miscarriage & #infantloss stories 🎙

These are the brave & beautiful faces you’ll see! They represent all forms of loss, from #chemicalpregnancy (can we please come up with another term plz) to #stillbirth & everything in between 💔

At the Rally, we strive to be a safe place where everyone feels comfortable sharing their struggles. We are so grateful to these amazing women for agreeing to open their hearts to all of you to extend the love we share in our Rally fam so you know you’re not alone 👯‍♀️

Help us raise awareness & blast stigmas for the #1in4 by supporting these amazing ladies & their accounts (all tagged here) 💕

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Oct 12

We put this list together to help anyone struggling. While this week & month get extra attention & awareness which we are so grateful for, the pain never leaves & can sneak up on your when you least expect it.

We hope you will bookmark this post & come back to it when you need a reminder of some of the many amazing resources out there to get you through the hard days.

So thankful for these women & accounts for creating such amazing platforms & resources for #1in4

@miscarriagehopedesk
@lamfampodcast
@drlorashahine
@undefiningmotherhood
@shellymettling
@chaunceyellis
@fertility_canada

We know there are SO many more, so we’d love you to tag all the resources you turn to so those that visit this post can have those too.

So much love to all of you this week, month, and always!

XOXO,

Blair & Ali

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Oct 11

In November 2012, during a trip to Charlotte to celebrate Thanksgiving with my family, I had my first miscarriage. This is a picture of Ever, me and Vince a few days before I got the devastating news. I know now, as do many of you, that miscarriages are common: One in four women have them.

But over the next two years, I had three more—each more devastating than the next. I remember waking up one morning a handful of months after my first miscarriage. I was six or seven weeks pregnant again, and when I wiped after going pee, there was a bright red streak on the toilet paper. My heart stopped. I called my gyno's office in a panic and explained to the nurse what was happening. "You're probably having a miscarriage," she said, in a bored, non-chalant tone that indicated she had said this exact thing to panicky women many, many times before. I pictured her chewing gum and playing Candy Crush on her phone while taking calls from patients. To her this was nothing—just another miscarriage. To me, it was everything. I remember hanging up, sobbing and pounding on the bedroom floor.

As you all well know, when you want a baby and you can’t have a baby, it is the saddest, lowest feeling in the world. I found myself spiraling into depression and fighting with my husband. Every time I saw another pregnant woman, I seethed.

While I feel beyond lucky that we finally had Sonny in 2015, after one round of IVF, I still get choked up when I think about those four losses. In fact, tears are streaming down my face right now. As I've said many times before, infertility never leaves you. It scars your heart and sticks to your bones.

I started @infertileafstories to share these stories and continue to blast stigmas. Blair and I started Fertility Rally as the community we wish we'd had while going through it.

To my fellow #infertilitywarriors and my #sistersinloss, I am so sorry for your losses. Each and every single one of them matters. And I am with you every step of the way.
xoxo

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Oct 10

So thankful to these amazing women for not only agreeing to speak at <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a> LIVE but for speaking out about #infantlossandmiscarriageawareness to blast stigmas for us all.

We invite you to scroll through these quotes and share one that resonates with you. Help us raise awareness for the #1in4 #ttcsisters whose hearts are extra heavy this month.

For more incredible wisdom & inspiration from these 5 women & TWENTY FIVE more, head to the link in our bio to grab your ticket - <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a> 💕

Today is the last day to add a PARTY PACK to your order for just $15! Trust us, you’ll want all the goodies 🎉

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Oct 9

To kick off #infantlossandmiscarriageawareness week, I’m sharing my #miscarriage story w/ you.

All 3 of these PGT-SR normal embryos were a result of #ivf round 1 in June 2018. We actually made 4 normal embryos that round but I was so infuriated when our 4th and final transfer didn’t work, I threw the photo away. #infertility does some pretty fucked up things to spirit.

One of these beautiful embabies snuggled in & after transfer 2 in September 2018, we learned we were pregnant! We saw the heartbeat at 6.5 weeks & celebrated by opening an envelope from our clinic at our anniversary dinner revealing we were having a baby girl 💕

We had a trip to Paris & London planned for our anniversary & birthdays (we celebrate all three within 2 weeks) & off we went as a family of 3! We spent a week in paradise on cloud 9, stopping to look at every little shop that had stuff for baby girls. We even brought home a couple of things for her.

When we showed up for our 7.5 week appointment, we had no idea our world was about to come crashing down. Our doctor couldn’t find a heartbeat & there was a ton of blood clouding the ultrasound, making it very hard to see anything at all. I was sent home to wait it out it hopes the blood would clear & we could get a better read on the situation, but it didn’t look good. An ultrasound a few days later confirmed the worst, she had stopped growing shortly after our 6.5 week appointment.

Our souls were crushed. The next few weeks were a blur. I chose to take medication at home to pass the pregnancy. That was miserable. We were both in a very dark place. It’s not something that will ever leave me. EVER.

In those dark moments, I felt so isolated, angry, sad & confused. I learned the meaning of #1in4. I wasn’t yet sharing about IVF with many people. I started <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertility-rally-38/' rel='nofollow'>@fabfertility</a> on a whim in hopes to connect with others going through similar journeys. It was the best decision I’ve made. The love & support I found & continue to find is like no other. I am thankful every day for this amazing #ttccommunity

My miscarriage redefined my purpose in life. My pain is now my purpose. So much love to all of you who have gone through loss. I see you.

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Oct 7

🏃‍♀️ LAST CHANCE 🏃‍♀️

Today is the last day Rally memberships are open until November!

This month is heavy but incredible in the #infertilitycommunity with it being #infantloassawarenessmonth - finding your people, taking care of yourself, and finding the support you need is more important than ever before.

We got you and we are here for you every step of the way, providing:

~ weekly virtual support groups
~ 24/7 searchable community
~ submit a special date & receive extra ❤️
~ monthly niche virtual events
~ exclusive discounts on fertility products
~ video library
~ exclusive merch
~ wellness meditations & more
~ downloadable guides
~ Cool Shit of the Week feature
~ bonus podcast
~ blog covering a wide array of topics

If you have any questions at all, please send us a DM! We want to welcome you with open arms 🤗

So much love,

Blair & Ali

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Oct 5

Happy Monday Rally fam! We are SO pumped to kick off Rally LIVE on October 24th with a keynote from the amazing @annavictoria 💕

Anna is a fitness icon & entrepreneur who founded the @fitbodyapp 🏋️‍♀️

She is a new #IVF mama & will join us to dish all about body image & hormones, the physical restrictions going through treatments, the difficulties of balancing a career & IVF, & much more!

Tickets are on sale now! For $40, get access to the entire day of virtual programming & the happy hour at the end the day. For $75, get all that PLUS a virtual SWAG bag packed full of fertility-related discounts & codes from brands we know & love as well as admission to our VIP after party 🎉

No matter what ticket you hold, you’ll have access to all the sessions for 30 days after the event!

Link in bio to snag your ticket <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a>

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Oct 4

👏🏼 Sharing a behind the scenes look into our membership site...

Membership is open for THREE MORE DAYS! Here is a snapshot of some of our member site features, content & perks:

Swipe left once and you’ll see a screen shot of our RALLY FEED where members come to connect, vent, ask advice & share news about their latest treatments👯‍♀️

Swipe left twice and find our infamous CSOTW (Cool Shit of the Week) where we provide a list & links to our fave things. Could be fertility-related, could be seasonal, could be completely random. This week: 6 fertility-related recipes featuring our very own member @nutritionbytara, @pcosnutrition, contributing guest blogger @ketowithsarah, @natalieparamore, @thefertilitykitchen, & Rally LIVE speaker @kela_healthcoach 🥘

Swipe left three times for a quick video of our PERKS section. We have partnered with brands like <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/oovalife/' rel='nofollow'>@oovalife</a>, @mybinto, @myvitro, @beli.baby, @get_rael, @incirclefertility, @naowellness & @natalistco to bring our members exclusive discounts on fertility essentials & services 💰

This is just the tip of the iceberg! We didn’t even get into the weekly support groups, wellness section, bonus podcast eps, blog, video library, member groups, & more!

Link in bio to join! We can’t wait to grow this Rally fam 💕 <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a>

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Oct 1

OMG Rally fam - thank you for helping us reach 5K on the gram! You know we have to celebrate 🎉

Rally Memberships opened this morning & as you know Rally LIVE tix for Oct 24th are on sale and for 48 HOURS ONLY, we are offering $5 off BOTH when you use the code 5OFF5K - visit the link in our bio for links to join & buy tix!!! <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a>

Also, we will be doing a 5K GIVEAWAY! Head to our stories and drop your email to enter to win a Rally LIVE VIP ticket ($75 value) or one of our many fun fertility-related prizes pictured in our stories 💕

Thank you again! We are nothing without you. We are the Worst Club w/ the Best Members - join us! 🍾 💞

Members - check the Rally Feed For your special code 😘

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Sep 30

A dear friend of Fertility Rally, Dr. Trolice (@myfertilitycare) so perfectly put into words how it feels going through #infertility - being on the outside looking in.

We can’t help but to think of Kevin McCallister walking down the street in Home Alone looking at all the families opening presents and sharing dinner while he is all alone.

Infertility doesn’t leave you either. If you do come out on the other side (whatever that looks like for you), you’ll never forget this isolating feeling.

That’s what makes this community so freaking amazing! We get it. We’ve been there or are there. We are here to RALLY behind you, to press our faces up against that glass window and lace our fingers in the chain link fence to look into the playground WITH YOU and scream #infertilitysucks

Our Rally fam has your back! Guess what?! Memberships open TOMORROW for one week only. Visit the link in our bio to jump on the waiting list to be the first notified when they open and to (hint) get a special offer! <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a>

#RALLYLIKEAMOFO

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Sep 29

LET THAT SHIT GO.

This is your daily reminder to breathe. To laugh. To take a step back for a hot second. To remember that everything is ok—and you are ok—in this very moment.

#Infertility can cause you to be laser-focused and unrelenting in your pursuit of having a baby. It becomes an obsession. You strap into that roller coaster, looking only at the "goal" at the end of the ride--and you forget about everything else that's happening around you.

ALL THAT MATTERS IS HAVING A BABY.

And this is nothing to be ashamed of--we have all been there. But sometimes, being so focused on one thing is not entirely healthy.

This is a friendly reminder that if you can take the bath, or take the walk, or watch the trashy TV show to get your mind off things, or look down at your feet and think, "I am here, and I am ok," — it just might help.

In our Stories today, we are so excited to announce one of our 16 Fertility Rally LIVE Breakout Sessions, which is called, simply, "Let That Shit Go." Led by Rebekah Rosler (@itsconceivablebyrebekahrosler) and Lisa White (@ivf.manifesting.a.miracle), this session is going to help you deal with the stress and anxiety of infertility—and help you recalibrate, refocus, and readjust your mindset into one of positivity and love.

LET.
THAT.
SHIT.
GO.

Link in bio to get your Rally tix, which are going fast! <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a>

We've got 30+ speakers and more than 11 hours (!!) of programming. All attendees will get a link to the ENTIRE event after the fact, so even if you can't make it live, or you choose 4 breakout sessions the day of the event but want to watch the other 12 later, you can do that. It's all for you.

And don't forget your Rally Party Pack, which includes some custom Rally Swag meant for Letting Shit Go.
XOXO

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Sep 28

As #pcosawarenessmonth comes to a close, we are dispelling some of the most popular #pcos myths. We invite you to share one of these myths to your story today to help being awareness to this condition that impacts so many of our #ttcsisters

We also want to remind you of our PCOS event tonight at 8PM ET w/ special guests @sashahakmanmd, @myfertilitycare, and @shaynamahoneyxo! Each guest will share their experience and expertise with PCOS and then answer a ton of questions we have collected in advance and from those in attendance. Tickets are $4.99 for non-members - link in bio <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a>

Ok, now let’s discuss these myths:

Myth #1: You Did Something to Cause It

While the exact cause of PCOS is unknown, you are not to blame. Several factors -- including genetics -- are widely believed to play a role.

Myth #2: If You Lose Weight, You Can Get Rid of PCOS

While overweight and obese women can help balance their hormone levels by losing weight through lifestyle changes like healthy eating and regular exercise which improve the way your body uses insulin and, therefore, regulates your hormone levels, unfortunately, there is no cure for PCOS.

Myth #3: PCOS is a Rare Condition

It is estimated that between 5-10% of U.S. women of childbearing age have PCOS. That’s about 5 million women, which makes the condition one of the most common hormonal endocrine disorders among women of reproductive age.

Myth #4: You Can't Get Pregnant if You Have PCOS

A number of medications can stimulate ovulation, which is the main issue that women with PCOS face. ART is also an amazing option. PCOS absolutely does not prevent pregnancy.

Myth #5: PCOS Only Affects Overweight Women

It is true that many women who have PCOS are overweight or obese. And it's also true that obesity can make PCOS symptoms worse. However, PCOS does not discriminate and can affect women of all shapes and sizes.

Resource for this post: pennmedicine.org

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Sep 26

Amanda Rice is 💪🏽 as hell! Not only has she been diagnosed with and beat cancer THREE times, she used over a decade of experience raising money to help get @chickmission off the ground.

The Chick Mission idea "hatched" when Amanda's fertility preservation coverage was denied by her insurance company. Staring down a long road of chemo, radiation and long-term drug therapy, Amanda understood the high likelihood of #infertility after her treatment and decided to move forward covering the costs on her own. The idea of other patients choosing not to pursue preservation simply because of the cost barrier did not sit well - socioeconomic standing should not dictate whether anyone has an opportunity to have biological children after they battle and beat cancer.

She thought, “Wouldn’t it be incredible if every single young female cancer patient had the option to preserve her fertility ahead of lifesaving treatment?”

We are THRILLED to have Amanda lead a breakout session at Fertility Rally LIVE to discuss egg freezing and her story!

Rally LIVE is officially 1 month from today 🎉

Get your ticket in the link in our bio <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a>

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Sep 26

Guess what this means?!

YOU are strong.

YOU are determined.

YOU are resilient.

YOU are brave.

YOU are passionate.

This #ttccommunity is amazing and the fact that you’re part of if means you are amazing. Just a Friday reminder in case you needed it!

At <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a> LIVE we will have a breakout session entitled “The Power of Community on Your Infertility Journey” co-led by two powerhouse advocates who have started their own companies in the name of blasting stigmas, raising awareness and saying 🖕🏼to isolation! Check out our stories for the announcement of one of these leaders 🎉

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Sep 24

How much do we love Rebekah Rosler @itsconceivablebyrebekahrosler? So. Damn. Much.
She is a mama of three with her own unique infertility journey.
She is a master connector who knows everyone and wants to help everyone.
She is speaking at RALLY LIVE, in a breakout sesh we’ve dubbed “Let That Shit Go,” — because she is also realAF and adds humor and authenticity to this sucky journey whenever possible. Alongside the amazing @ivf.manifesting.a.miracle, they are going to help all of you keep things in perspective, reduce stress and not let infertility rule your world.
We cannot effing wait!
Event is 10/24 and tickets are available at link in our bio! You can sign up for all of your breakout sessions in advance!
#rallylikeamofo

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Sep 24

In tonight’s Rally Together Support Group, we were joined by Abbe & Sophie, the co-founders of @incirclefertility

We centered our discussion around reevaluation when going through #infertility - reevaluating your clinic, your treatment plan, your boundaries and your friendships.

As Sophie explained (paraphrasing here), “We can all hope we come out on the other side in one piece and not having left a path of relationship destruction in our wake.”

It is inevitable that some friendships will be forever changed on your #infertilityjourney for many reasons and you have to be ok with letting them burn if they need to! aka Friendship Ashes

You come first. Set your boundaries. Don’t apologize. Weed out the people in your life who do not fully support you.

Drop a 💪🏽 if you agree!

Thanks Abbe & Sophie - we love you dearly! Friends, if you are interested in one on one coaching with @incirclefertility and are not yet a Rally member, they are offering an annual Rally membership to you in one of their coaching packages 🎉

Rally mems, check out the Perks page on the membership site for your special discount to @incirclefertility 💕

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Sep 22

This is an oldie but a goodie. Me on April 1, 2015—the day of my very first (and only) FET. My face was saying, “Holy Shit, I’m Scared Shitless.” My heart was saying, “Please, God, let this work after four miscarriages and three years of secondary infertility hell. This is our Hail Mary.”

It took Vince and I a long time to agree to do IVF. We never thought it was in the cards for us. I was laser focused on baby number two because I loved being a mommy to our then-five-year-old SO much. He would’ve loved to have another child, but he didn’t have the same relentless desire that I had. If it didn’t work, we were closing the chapter on another baby — and we would’ve been happy as a family of three.

But lo and behold, it did.

I tell this story because I know how incredibly lucky we were, and because I want to give hope to anyone out there who might be feeling like it’ll never happen for them. Instead of thinking, “What if it doesn’t happen?” — how about, “What if it does?”

Who can relate to being Scared Shitless in a Gown? Let us know below.💙

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Sep 21

It’s #pcosawarenessmonth & we are super excited to bring the #ttccommunity an opportunity to learn more about #PCOS from the patient & physician perspective.

We have lined up three rockstar guests to dish all the deets.

@sashahakmanmd is a US board certified OBGYN with subspecialty training in reproductive endocrinology & infertility who specializes in women's health, hormones, infertility and reproductive/pelvic surgery. As a fertility doctor but and someone who suffers from PCOS, she aims to provide resources to help you reach your lifestyle goals and prevent you from falling into traps of misinformation present all over the internet.

@myfertilitycare (Dr. Trolice) is a RE based in Florida who is extremely passionate about educating patients on all aspect of #infertility challenges any chance he gets. Having gone through multiple years of infertility with his wife, his level of empathy towards patients is something to be treasured.

@shaynamahoneyxo is a Holistic Fertility Coach who got started in her work as a result of her own struggles #ttc - she suffered from PCOS for many years before taking matters into her own hands to determine certain lifestyle factors that led her symptoms at bay. She is extremely passionate about looking at things through a holistic lens when working with her clients.

This event will be an hour-long conversation where each guest shares their knowledge surrounding PCOS with plenty of time for Q & A at the end.

Members, this event is free for you - simply RSVP on the site! For non-members, head to the link in our bio to snag a ticket for just $4.99! If you can’t make it to the actual event, the recording will be emailed to all participants the very next day!

Knowledge is power! We can’t wait to RALLY with you and

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Sep 20

WE ARE SO THRILLED TO ANNOUNCE OUR FERTILITY RALLY LIVE AFTERNOON KEYNOTE SPEAKER, THE INCREDIBLE SAMANTHA BUSCH!

Samantha is a huge and important voice in this community, sharing her own story about IVF and pursuing surrogacy and founding the Bundle of Joy Fund with her husband, NASCAR star @rowdybusch, which advocates for fertility education and grants monetary awards to couples who require fertility treatments to have their own bundle of joy.

Her memoir, "Fighting Infertility," which tells her whole story—including all of the lessons she's learned along the way—comes out soon. 👏🏽

On a personal note, we LOVE Samantha, who has appeared on both of our podcasts and become a dear friend. She is kind, fun, generous and hilarious. She is going to give an amazing talk! Do not miss it💥💥💥
Link in our bio to snag tickets now🎉🎉🎉
#rallylikeamofo

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Sep 19

Yesterday, we lost one of the greats. We read this morning that she fought for reproductive rights over the phone from her hospital bed. What a legend!

She left big shoes to fill and will be an inspiration to us all for centuries to come! And she’s right - women belong in all places where decisions are being made.

Fertility coverage decisions in the workplace are no exception. As women, we have the responsibility to fight for coverage for ourselves and for the women who will come after us.

We are so excited to be offering a breakout session at Fertility Rally LIVE to give you the tools to do just that. Join Amanda Rush, Senior Manager for Coverage at Work at @resolveorg for a discussion on what you can do to advocate in the workplace. We all want to make this happen, but we don’t know how. Well, now we will!

Tickets to the Rally are on sale now! Link in bio <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a>

Let’s channel our inner RBG and make some shit happen 👊🏼💕💪🏽

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Sep 18

🎉 R A L L Y ~ P A N E L I S T 🎉

We could not be more excited to announce that the amazing @nataliecrawfordmd will be speaking on one of Fertility Rally LIVE panels titled, “WHO RUN THE WORLD: Superstar Female REs.”

Dr. Crawford is a compassionate, intelligent, empathetic, genuine, and loving voice in the #infertility space. She is a trailblazer for her peers who has embraced social media as a tool to help patients and make physicians more approachable. Her influence reaches beyond the field of infertility where she challenges women to be unapologetic about living the life they want by constantly asking themselves the questions, “What is my goal? And what can I do to get there?”

She is the host of @asawomanpodcast 🎙

She is an entrepreneur - she recently co-founded @forafertility 💙

She is a wife & mother (see the last pic) 🧡🤘🏼

She is #1in4 - having experienced #miscarriage (multiple) and an #ectopicpregnancy trying to build her family, she is able to bring an unmatched level of empathy to her patients struggling.

You will not want to miss her insight, expertise and advice on emerging #IVF trends, your fertility and how to best set yourself up for success while #ttc during this panel discussion.

Only 6 EARLY BIRD tickets left! Link is in our bio to snag yours now <a class='bp-suggestions-mention' href='https://fertilityrally.com/members/fertilityrally/' rel='nofollow'>@fertilityrally</a> 💕

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